Dear Micky:

You asked: “Is it possible that my past experiences had a “spill-off” effect to my relationship now?”- yes, this is what I typed to you in my last post to you today. You wrote that English is not your first language. If you read again my last post to you less than an hour and a half ago, maybe look up any words you don’t understand, you may benefit from it.

Children often dissociate from a painful childhood experience, later feeling it didn’t make much of a difference in their lives, not seeing the connection between childhood experience and present, adult experience. But the connection is strong whether we feel it or not.

How can we possibly not be affected by our childhood experience? After all our childhood is when our brain was formed, when most of the connections there were made.

anita