Dear Junsheng:

You wrote that you are “working on being very mindful about those instances as (you) do not want to hurt (your parents)”-

Children are motivated to please their parents, definitely to not hurt them. Reason is biological: children of any animal species where the parent/s do take care of their young, need that caring, so they are eager to follow, to please. Same with you, when you were a child. And you still do.

Unfortunately, parents do not have the same inborn motivation. Question to you: you are working on not hurting them. How did/ do they hurt you?

anita