Dear Jay-me:

Welcome back!

You wrote: ” I cannot stop talking to him as he is the father of my child…I want my child to know him and have a relationship with him, but I struggle to include him in his life”-

but the father of your child didn’t see his very young child for two years! So there is no relationship between father and son. In reality, he is only a biological father, not a father in practice. In reality you are a single mother. You don’t even get financial support from the biological father.

And so, there is no reason for you to be in contact with the child’s biological father. There is no reason for you to place yourself in situations where you get hurt. Nothing good comes of it.

It would be less “emotionally draining” for you if you fit your expectations, and your choices, to Reality: you are a single mother.

If in the future he works, and if there is or will be a way to legally make him contribute financially to the raising of your child- then make the legal steps toward it. Otherwise, there is no reason for you to communicate with him and get hurt.

anita