Dear Brandy:

You are very thoughtful, to start this thread for another member. It may be that the original poster of the thread you are referring to accidently or intentionally reported her own thread. I didn’t  see a valid reason for it to  be reported intentionally. I hope the OP is following this resurrection of her thread, that she  welcomes it, and that she posts here.

I read your replies on other threads, Brandy, and I appreciate your intelligence, kindness and  grace.

Dear GypsyQueen:

In your thread you wrote: “I am in love with a co worker. We are both married (I am currently separated) and the pain of seeing him every day is killing me. The relationship started as an emotional affair, we were  both going through rough times in our relationships.” Your marriage seems to be over, is my understanding, but your co worker’s marriage is ongoing and he is  committed to  it. You are in emotional turmoil for seeing your co worker daily at work but leaving your job is not  an option for you.

My input: no contact between you and the co worker, that is, one of you should  leave the job. It doesn’t  have  to be you because he is also responsible for what has  taken place over the past few years.  If such is not  an option for either, then I would recommend that no matter how you feel, how sad and lonely, desperate and drawn to him you feel, that  you focus on your behavior: make  it  clear to  him that the  communication with him from now on will be the very minimal required as co workers and then make  sure that it is so.

anita