November 14, 2017 at 10:09 am #178049
I read your “In love with a co worker I cannot have” post but am unable to reply to it because the topic was reported as inappropriate. Sometimes I think that topics may inadvertently get reported when members use touch screens and accidently touch the “report” link. This is the first time I noticed that users are not permitted to reply to topics that are reported. I don't understand why your topic was reported. If anyone knows, maybe they'll let me know.
You say that leaving your job isn't an option. If I were you, I would make it an option. I would actively look for another job immediately. If you are removed from the situation, over time it'll get easier to be without this guy and you will be okay, free from the difficult feelings, free to find a partner who is available.
BNovember 15, 2017 at 3:01 am #178125
You are very thoughtful, to start this thread for another member. It may be that the original poster of the thread you are referring to accidently or intentionally reported her own thread. I didn't see a valid reason for it to be reported intentionally. I hope the OP is following this resurrection of her thread, that she welcomes it, and that she posts here.
I read your replies on other threads, Brandy, and I appreciate your intelligence, kindness and grace.
In your thread you wrote: “I am in love with a co worker. We are both married (I am currently separated) and the pain of seeing him every day is killing me. The relationship started as an emotional affair, we were both going through rough times in our relationships.” Your marriage seems to be over, is my understanding, but your co worker's marriage is ongoing and he is committed to it. You are in emotional turmoil for seeing your co worker daily at work but leaving your job is not an option for you.
My input: no contact between you and the co worker, that is, one of you should leave the job. It doesn't have to be you because he is also responsible for what has taken place over the past few years. If such is not an option for either, then I would recommend that no matter how you feel, how sad and lonely, desperate and drawn to him you feel, that you focus on your behavior: make it clear to him that the communication with him from now on will be the very minimal required as co workers and then make sure that it is so.
November 15, 2017 at 9:46 am #178173
- This reply was modified 3 months, 1 week ago by anita.
What a nice thing to say to me. Thank you very much, and I'm so glad that you don't think GypsyQueen's topic is inappropriate either.
BNovember 15, 2017 at 9:55 am #178181
You are welcome, Brandy. Glad you are here!