Hi anita,

I have realised a lot about myself through my conversations with you, my friends, and my counselor. A combination of all these and a desire to improve myself has led me to think a lot. I realised that since the past, I have had a lot of issues, especially with low self-esteem. I think that is one of the main issues that has drove my behavior and my thoughts. I never realised the consequences of what I have been doing on myself and on other people. I still can’t let go of my ex for some reason. Accepting that she is gone is difficult for me. The potential for regret in the future is too much that I feel like I should do something, somehow. My counselor suggested that if I have to juggle between acceptance and possible future regret, that maybe I should make a plan. I’m thinking to set a date, sometime about 5 or 6 months from now – that I will contact her again. Maybe not to get back together, but to know each other again after some time has passed. The chances are slim, and I don’t want to bank too much on it as well. However, making a plan might be beneficial for me as well.

As for my previous question, I meant – should I be doing what I am doing now? I want to become better – not necessarily for her, but for myself too. I’m afraid that constantly thinking about it will drive me down a hole. However, not thinking about it just result in me dreaming about her at night.