Dear howtoloveme:

This belief that “self love and  being gentle with own-self is for soft people” is a block in your way to love yourself. Here is my input on this belief: strong people are healthy people, physically, mentally healthy. Because all our emotions are natural, we are born to feel hurt, sad, scared, happy, tired, hungry, angry, and  so on, we are  healthy and therefore strong, if we let ourselves feel all those  feelings, and not push down any, not try hard  to not feel any of these.

It is the pushing  down of  feelings, treating our natural feelings as  if they were  unnatural, as if they were the enemy, that keeps us sick and therefore weak.

Look at  your own progression as a man trying to.. not be soft. How has it worked for you?

anita