Dear NightFlower:

Having read your current and previous threads about this relationship. First a few of your quotes then my input:

You wrote today: “he admitted ‘he doesn’t love himself when he’s with me”.

Sept 7: “We recently had this fight again and this time he said he sometimes thinks he’s better  off  on his own because he doesn’t want  to hurt  me  anymore… the arguments just make him feel worse because he starts beating himself  up for ‘not changing and hurting me'”

You wrote today: “he mentioned i’m the most selfless, caring and  thoughtful person he’s ever known”. Nov 16 you wrote: “He said I have done nothing wrong and I’m nothing more than wonderful to him. That his distance and needing space has nothing to do with me”.

My input:  during the relationship you repeatedly pointed  out to him how he was hurting your feelings, how insensitive or not-empathetic he is to you. Repeatedly he apologized. Over time, in the relationship with you, his distress increased and his mental health suffered. And so,  he   is  indeed better of by  himself.

anita