Dear LiveQuietly:

I don’t have literature for you. My input nonetheless is that I believe in monogamy as well, absolutely. Not only “there is a place for monogamy” in my mind, but there is no place at all for open relationships in my mind and life.

In the animal world some animals are monogamous, many are not. Nature decided monogamy works for some, not for others. We humans have the privilege of making our own thoughtful choices, a privilege other animals don’t have.

There are a lot of choices people make that I dislike, but if those choices do not hurt others (ex., one partner gives in to an open relationship although she doesn’t agree with it and is hurt by it, or it hurts the children), then I let it be. What I do is not ask for the details… so that I don’t have to “cleanse my pallet” afterwards.

anita