Hi Katie,

I think we are often unhappiest is when we care what people are thinking, saying, or talking about us. When we are at peace with ourselves, that is when we don’t care, if not we are at the mercy of other people and under their control. People are going to judge people no matter what..and it has nothing to do with you, but more to do with them..their unhappiness. Let them gossip. When they fire of that, they will move on to someone else to gossip about. Go where the sunshine is. There really are good people out there. Don’t build walls. Let people get to know you. Not all people talk behind your back, gossip and backstab. Don’t concern yourself with oeople, places and things because it will make you miserable. Focus on living your life, being happy, enjoying the little things..nature, hobbies. Don’t worry about other people, they are too busy worrying about themselves.

You said you have a difficult time “letting go” which is most likely why you can’t let an unfulfilled relationship go. Can you expand on that a little? Did something happen in your childhood, such as rejection, abandonment, etc? Have you talked to a counselor about social anxiety disorder? I have a trusted therapist who has helped me greatly with this, and am on very good medication to overcome this. There is hope and help. x