Dear Aztekkaa:

For your son’s sake, better no longer have your ex boyfriend in and out of your son’s life. Your boyfriend is like a co-parent to your children, having helped you raise them since birth. I hope you can arrange it with the practical co-parent of your children visitations with your children, much like in the case of divorced parents and keep your anger at him out of your children’s experience.

Regarding your broken heart, the pain, the anger, frustration, these have to be endured while you function best you can in spite of your heartache. The better you function, for your benefit, as well as for the benefit of your children, the faster you recover.

When overwhelmed with the emotional pain and distress, calm yourself in some effective way, such as taking a hot bath or doing some aerobic exercise, listening to relaxing music, or just breathing slowly and deeply. Every time.

Do it day after day after day and your persistence will pay off.

anita