Hi Nees,

I don’t think you are stupid for wanting him back, because you developed feelings for him before all this happened, however, I don’t think it is a good idea to actually get back with him. He seems very unstable, emotional abusive, disrespectful of your feelings. Like you said, you have done all the investing and apologizing and he has not done his part, no apolgy, where one was due. What he did should not be tolerated. It’s like kicking a dead horse. If you were to continue a relationship with him..would he change? Get therapy? Apologize? Probably not, and in the end you will end up frustrated and miserable. I think you are missing the man you met, instead of the man he became, and the future you wanted with him. He is not looking for that. You want a loving, stable, supportive man in your life, a best friend and life partner and he can not provide that. I hope you find the love you deserve. x