Dear Cali Chica:

You are beginning to see the truth. There is much more to see.

I will start this post with an example, trying to make a point: let’s say you attended a medical school (as you did), studied very well and got the best grading possible in all your exams. That will help you in the quest of doing a good job as a medical doctor, correct? I mean, you proved being a hard worker, studying hard, over a few long years, persistent, dedicated and you earned excellent grades, you know the subject matter very well.

What if what you were taught in that medical school was the wrong information? What if it was not true. What if you learned how the human body does not function? Working hard and earning excellent grades would make your medical practice a bad practice, wouldn’t it?

– what your mother taught you, what you learned from her was untrue, the wrong information. And it leads to poor living. As much as you loved her, as much and as hard as you tried (as well as your sister), your living practice has been very poor.

Because you have the wrong, false information, not the truth. The information you have is not congruent with reality.

Here is the false information: your mother told you that her childhood was good. It was not.

How do I know? Because if she had a good childhood, she would have been empathetic to her little girls.

So here is the mix of truth and untruth:

True: neighbors in her home country talked to each other. Neighbors in her new country did not.

Untrue: she had a good childhood.

It is in her childhood when your mother’s neuropathways were formed. In her home country. Not in her adulthood, not in the new country, not as a result of her experiences as an immigrant.

I have more input, but will wait for your reaction to what I wrote so far.

anita