Dear Jen:

You asked: “Should I keep fighting?”- I wonder what you mean by “fighting”. Does fighting mean staying and waiting, staying and asking him once in a while if he is ready to commit? Does it mean fighting your impatience or growing despair at his indecisiveness…?

If you mean fighting as in staying and waiting, I would say: no, don’t just stay and wait but get to know him better. Get to know his motivations: the love and the fear. Learn more about his fear. It is better to increase and deepen the communication with him, your learning of who he is and how he operates, than it is to wait for him to solve by himself, whatever problem you think he has, or whatever problem he has which he vaguely expressed.

Get to know the details, the specifics of his fear.

anita