Thanks for elaborating on your marriage to explain more about yourself linevty0.

Comparison is deadly.  It is built into our evolutionary biology.  Mindfulness is a great way of catching ourselves to notice about what works for us and what doesn’t.  You might want to check out Byron Katie’s The Work.  See below and/or look it up on the web or get her book.

Plus do you want to waste your time and your energies and attention on her ex’s and your deficiencies?

Mark

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1. Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3.)
2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.)
3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without the thought?