Dear Brenin:

Your wife blames you for not being empathetic to her feelings while reality is she is not empathetic to your feelings. She  blames you for ruining your lives while she is ruining it. She sends you articles about how to fix marriages while she  is not reading those articles herself. Her MO is to point the finger of blame at you.

It is impossible for you to fix a marriage with a woman with this MO.

Regarding your most recent post: her son’s symptoms indicate to me he has suffered damage caused by your wife during the  ten years of co parenting him.

At the end of your recent post you wrote: “I carried on to keep the peace. I wanted her to be happy. I wanted the kids to be happy.”- carrying on failed in all these objectives:  didn’t make her  happy and  the  kids are being harmed in the context of this marriage.

You will be better off no longer in this marriage. The kids will have a chance to get better, I hope, when their father’s mental health is improved (possible outside the marriage). Your wife will continue to blame you, blame her kids, blame others. That is her MO.

anita