Dear Jen:

You are welcome. You mentioned yesterday that he is on Zoloft. I remember when I got on Zoloft I felt such a relief because my distressing emotions were almost… eliminated. It was like a pair of scissors cut off my emotions and I was not troubled by them. My psychiatrist at the time suggested that indeed he heard other people report this to him. This may explain him not feeling in love with you, especially every minute of the day, as he said (an impossibility on Zoloft or not, to feel anything every minute of the day, that is).

Maybe he is addicted to fighting and making up, there are highs in the making up that will fuel such addiction, or habit. Not a good idea of course to engage such habit.

If it is your lack of anger that bothers him, or what he may feel is repressed, unexpressed anger, I don’t know about it, don’t have the information about the interactions between the two of you. He may have a valid point, I don’t know.

Regarding the two examples you gave, both are of irrational decisions, correct? Hi decision to stay away from family and friends because he is depressed is not necessarily irrational. It may be a rational choice if his family and friends are promoting his depression.

anita