Dear Mark:

When you were a child, growing up in your family of origin (FOO, as you term it), your mother expressed anger at men. You noticed her anger and it affected you. You noticed her anger because she must have expressed it aggressively or passive aggressively or both. Since your father was a man, she was angry at him, correct?

Was she also angry at you, being a boy, destined to be a man?

You wrote that as a result of your childhood experience you got involved, as an adult, with women who are also angry. But your last relationship was with a woman who was not angry, and you believe it is an indicator of your “spiritual and psychological health”.

For me to understand better, I ask: can you share about the ways your mother expressed her anger, at whom,  and how it affected you as the child that you were?

anita