Dear Mary:

I wouldn’t contact him because on a dating site, when plans to meet someone are made but are not specific to time and place, they are the same as no-plans. Unless you have a time and a place for a meeting, it is not a date.

Online dating sites are about numbers. People are exposed to many potential dates and sort through all those profiles and communications, multi tasking. It really is not a good idea to immediately focus on one possibility and see no others.

A man has to survive the online process before he can meet you in person. This man hasn’t, because he didn’t follow through with his non-specific plans to meet you. Keep communicating with other potential dates, be engaged in the process, try to … enjoy it, find your way to work the site to your advantage. It will take time, and if you proceed wisely, you can meet in person the best potential life partner of all the many men on the site.

anita