Dear Buddi:

I hope there is a way or ways for you to help your son who reached out to you for help. Telling him that that “the most important thing is to be happy” won’t do much good for him when being happy to him means pleasing his father who makes such pleasing very difficult or impossible.

The title of your thread is “I have been stuck for the last three years”- reads to me that you have been stuck for way longer, starting in childhood, being stuck with your parents (I was stuck too, many of us have been..). To escape that entrapment, you agreed to an arranged marriage and at one point on were stuck in that marriage. And then, you escaped, at times, to a man, Mike, who repeatedly lied to you, a man not reliable.

You wrote that Mike was your soulmate. I wonder: how so? How was he your soulmate?

anita