Dear Anita and Calisister,

Thank you Anita for providing my sister support, she appreciates your words on this forum tremendously.  You have given both her and I the courage to see the truth.  With the truth comes pain and distress, and as you mentioned, this is something that one must endure in order to come out on the other hand with more light, healing, and less pain.  Calisister has endured pain all her life, at first as a young child not knowing what it is, then as an adolescent having precocious understanding of all we speak about (and that I only realized in my late 20s-30) – but feeling tremendous guilt and confusion.

I believe that calisister is at a cross roads.  It does not matter the type of job she is in, program, etc.  It is that she can not live one day longer in the state she is in.  She has reached her limit.  It so often is when you  reach that limit, true beauty can finally shine – but if you let it.  She has reached this rock bottom before, but had to go back to her normal ways (work, interacting with parents, getting abuse from parents) that these breakdowns never led to any enlightenment – how could they.  Now – I think is finally her chance to provide space for healing.

My husband and I will support her in any way that we can.  I have advised her not to tell my parents about this right now.  A) she needs to let her feelings sink in and really find her voice of what she needs B) parents will only cause more stress and havoc and guilt C) parents will terrorize me over the next week and beyond on how I need to help an fix my sister, and call me with emotional breakdowns and guilt – and even blame me for my sister’s issues.

No good can come out of any of this.  So for once, we take the liberty to not involve them – the ones who brought her to this place in the first place.