Dear Cali Chica:

You are welcome and thank you for your appreciation. You wrote that you see the truth and now it is about what you will do with it. You asked what would be a good way to  proceed.

My answer: take your time and figure out what you value more, and then fit your actions to what you value: 

1. The temporary relief of your mother’s distress (who gets her relief by intentionally causing you distress)

The temporary relief of your father’s distress (who gets his relief by helping his wife accomplish her relief, see above)

The temporary relief of your sister’s distress (who gets her relief displaying a similar self-centered behavior as does your mother)

2. The long term well being of your family of choice: you, your husband and your future children.

* My goodness, the thought just occurred to me, that if your mother and father saw this listing, they would have chosen #1 for you, the first two sentences of #1.

Well, I hope you have a good vacation. Do what it takes.

anita