Dear calisister:

Your two trivia sharing is making me smile as I type this. Now I know.

A couple of comments on your latest post: it is not good enough for you to not share suicidal thoughts with your sister “that often”. You should never, not even once, share such with her. One time is one too many times.

Regarding overwhelming her not “on a regular basis anymore”, same principle, one time is one too many. In the future when you do share with her, pay attention so to share responsibly, in moderation, so to not overwhelm.

About the ways she overwhelms you, be assertive with her. Tell her. Only I hope there is no need at this point, that you already communicated or soon will communicate about keeping a distance, one aimed at individual healing.

Another aim- to be a good mother, in the future, far future I hope, if you choose to be a mother. I think it is an excellent idea to turn one’s back to an abusive parent and turn toward your children, let your loyalty be with the innocent, not the guilty.

Will soon be away from the computer for about sixteen hours. Take good care of yourself, help your dog heal from his bleeding and keep your own healing going.

anita