Hi Sarah72,

If you do visit your aunt, the decision should come from you, rather than from your mom’s guilt.

The best that could happen if you visit, you’d see your aunt as a chagrined older person (who might apologize, who knows?) and stand in your power as a beneficent adult in the family.

If you don’t, what you resist persists, I’m afraid, and you’re going to get the guilt bombs from your mom, even if she sends them psychically from afar. She is taking out her anxiety onto you. Your aunt can’t bully you if you’re not there and is finding your mom can’t control you.

Kittens grow into cats. So no, you are not the bullied child anymore.

Your decision!

Inky