Dear  Gee:

You are  not a bad  person for feeling anything at all  that you feel. We don’t choose our feelings, therefore what we  feel is  neither good nor bad. And  we are not good or bad for feeling what we  do.

What you described is definitely attachment to  this man. But then, emotional attachment  is what  people so often refer  to as  love.

You define what love is, for you. What I see as  love is something you are already practicing with this man, intending  to not harm him, to not harm his family.  Basically, the do-no-harm principle.

There are  so many, may people who are emotionally attached  to others  and harm those same individuals. They would say they love the  person they harm. I disagree.

anita