Hi LoveAndLive,

You made the right decision. Let me repeat this: YOU MADE THE RIGHT DECISION.

On a much lighter scale, this reminds me of the time all the guys in college boycotted Valentines Day because it was a Hallmark Holiday. Guess what? They by and large found themselves single and hurting February 15th/. Are you sure he’s not polyamorous only because everyone else is seemingly “polyamorous”?

Polyamory sounds so hip, cool, enlightened and valid. Until it turns out it isn’t when tested in real life.

Silly boy, he IS a monogamist after all, only because no girl he will actually meet in real life (yes, even the girls who “claim” they’re polyamorous because it sounds so hip, cool, enlightened and valid) will stand to be in a polyamorous relationship themselves. At least not for long.

This is so typical. So twenties. So “I’ve found a hedonistic romantic loophole” and “my polyamory trumps your monogamy because it’s so hip, cool, enlightened and valid”. So “Don’t you know monogamy is a social construct?” (even though it’s been around for hundreds of thousands of years of human evolution so cavewomen’s children didn’t starve because the father was messing around).

If you want to keep this in reality hapless, uncool, unenlightened, “oh please” guy in your life, keep him hanging for at least a year, then generously forgive him for his youthful ways (or not at all).

Good Luck,

Inky