Dear joanna:

You are doubting my statement that I no longer feel angry at my mother with whom I have no contact. Okay. Look for this very information in nature then: an animal who is aware of a predator around feels fear and runs away. After successfully running away, does it go back to the way it was before: feeding and listening still, relaxing when feeling safe, like before?

And when an animal in nature feels anger when another is threatening it and fights the other animal, survives the fight, the other animal is gone, safety is resumed, does the animal not return to the way it was before, or is it still fuming, angry at the threat now gone?

We are no different. We are animals.

anita