Dear Brooke:

From reading your post I don’t see anything about your boyfriend’s behavior that would be a deal breaker for me, if I was in your place. It reads to me that your anxiety has been spiraling out of control for  a while and that there is nothing he can do to calm it, not for long. I believe that it is very important for your well-being, as well as his, that the two of you attend quality psychotherapy, as a couple.

Most important to not get married unless your anxiety is dealt with so that you don’t react to it the same ways, over time destroying the relationship and maybe his love for you, a love that is evident to me in your sharing.

anita