Dear Jenny Lynn:

No, I don’t think he is toxic or emotionally abusive to you, not at all. Maybe it would be better for you if you lived alone, that may be, but not because he is abusive. But because it may work better for you.

Even better would be if the two of you can work like a team, the Win-Win team I mentioned earlier. That will take a different attitude from the two of you, and working together.

Reads to me that you love him (didn’t read from you about John for a long, long time, by the way, and that is fine with me!) and that he loves you.

You mentioned weight- he gained some weight and so did you, correct? Well, this is something you can work on together as a team.

anita