Thanks for the advice, Anita and Mark and Maggie too. Both are really enlightening and provider perspective to the relationship.
I am supposed to fly over to meet her next month. During that time, I planned to talk to her about our future getting together. This episode that happened made me think it will not be possible. She would not want to see me even if I go over.
Both your advises allow me to speak to her in a different perspective now. Again, if I manage to speak to her. And because it is one month away, should I speak to her about this now or wait?
I apologize again if I sound selfish or I totally ignore my wife. However, my relationship with my wife is not in good terms. Even if we goes back to being “okay”, it is totally only like co-parenting. Debbie is the person I see whom I want to wake up to every morning. Or course I love her. Should I just let her be alone like she wanted? I mean loving a person sometimes means to let her go, right?
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 