Dear Ash:

You wrote: “I am definitely in no position to be entering into a relationship with a man until I am ‘healed'”- Why did you place quotation marks around “healed”? Is it that you doubt it is possible?

I am in the process of healing myself, on the healing path as I call it.  I don’t know if I have enough time in front of me to heal completely. I doubt it as it may take a hundred years, I don’t know. But healing is taking place.

I do know that it is not possible to heal all the way individually and then enter a relationship all .. healed. There are challenges within a relationship that can be worked on only in the context of a relationship.

Are still exposed to your father’s “fluctuations between very loving and completely cold and distant”, is that still going on, in your life?  If so, how are you dealing with that?

anita