Thanks Anita for your guidance..im struggling with it all tonight..I received a message from him really late on Monday night asking how I was and asking to let him know when a good time to call is. The message was friendly..I could work out if it was to have closure or to work stuff out. I responded the next morning saying I was ok and hoped he was ok too. I told him whenever he felt ready to which I felt was holding the space for him and wasnt putting any pressure on him. I am now feeling stupid for being so gentle with him, I have my suspicions he was under the influence of cocaine and was feeling lonely..then the feeling passed the next day. I really hoped he would contact me but the silence continues and I am trying to move forward but it’s so painful. I am doing all of the ‘right’ things but I can’t think of anything else. He told me he just needed space and didn’t know what was going on but this feels so cold and remote, he’s kept his relationship status on Facebook(yes I know I shouldn’t look..maybe I should block him?) I also have quite a lot of his stuff here which I have packed up and put into the garage…I’m too scared to take it round like my friends have suggested but is this the best thing to do? I am stuck in this limbo of trying to accept it’s over and clinging on to the hope he’s working things out and will contact me when he’s ready but as time goes on, I’m feeling more and more detached and confused. Any advice would be really appreciated.