Dear joanna:

I meant that cutting contact with her doesn’t magically make everything better. I used to fantasize that when I cut contact with my mother I will be free and happy. Unfortunately, for too long I felt guilty while not in contact with her so I didn’t feel that freedom I hoped to feel.

Thing is I felt plenty guilty all through the years that I was in contact with her. So as to the first thought you brought up in your recent post- no, it wasn’t worse for me after I cut contact with her, not at all. It got better and better and better for me after I cut contact with her. Life got better for me because I cut contact with her and kept no contact.

(I am glad you check with me when you are not clear about what I mean. I do the same thing when I am not clear).

anita