Hi Coco,

It is so hard to stop enabling someone, especially your children!

My attitude would be, if you’re not in school, you have to work. If you’re not working you have to be in school. He can work for himself until companies accept him. It’s hard to believe he can’t find anything, frankly. So he can be an Uber driver, go on the Task Rabbit App, apply for Care dot com to be a personal assistant to someone, be a handyman, etc., etc.

Maybe he’ll realize that finishing school is actually easier than finding a job.

Give him a deadline. Move and don’t tell him where you’re going. Pay first and last months rent for his own apartment. Have him use your place as an Air B and B for extra money. Apply to community college for him and when he gets accepted say “You’re going or I’m kicking you out”. I’m just throwing suggestions out there.

Does he have friends? Relatives he can visit? He can couch surf with them.

You need a break, Mother.

Inky