Dear Derek:

You are welcome. There will always be things to fear, things to worry about. If a person is financially secure, very wealthy, then there is that possibility of getting sick and dying and not be there to enjoy that financial security… that has happened to people, as you know.

Anxiety is unsettled fear. The thinking brain looks for a problem to solve, so to settle that fear. It picks one problem, and if it is solved, then it will pick another problem and so on and on…

So if you did choose a different boyfriend, a rich one, your brain will find another problem to think about, worry about.

Better stay with the one who loves you, the one you love. And choose again and again love over fear, just as you had in the last two lines: “So that’s what I’m going to do instead“!

anita