Trixie,

The definition of insanity is that if you do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result.

So even though Tom does not like having a 3rd party in the relationship to do counseling, does he know that there will be no relationship if he does not concede to that?

Plus I am cautioning you about Harry since the beginning of the relationship of him is in the honeymoon stage.

I would recommend that you need to be on your own rather than jumping into another romantic relationship before the current one is done.  Before going from one to another without a pause, being on your own, on your own two feet is better as well.

I’m not saying you should stay with Tom. I’m saying that starting another romantic relationship right away is a mistake in my opinion.

Mark