As someone who has dated someone from a different culture that doesn’t accept intercultural (or intercaste, etc.) relationships, I can only provide advice from someone on the opposite side. I do think this has more to do with those differences than anything else and that is unfortunate, especially since you write about your boyfriend being loving and accepting of you like no other. In my opinion, he has done nothing wrong but simply be a human being.

You need to ask yourself if this relationship is worth fighting for and potentially being disowned for? At 23, I think you are too young to make that decision. However, will you meet someone as good for you as this guy again? Potentially not. But that is the risk you take. What you can do immediately is discuss your cultural “responsibilities” and “expectations” with your boyfriend. You need to be upfront and honest that there might not be a future with you. Yes, this is hard but he doesn’t deserve being led on to think that this is something more than is possible. As someone who has been deceived in that manner, I can tell you that it hurts in a unique way. I felt used and dehumanized for a significant period of time. It has affected how I view love and how trusting I am with others. I didn’t deserve that and nor does your boyfriend.

I know the situation can be different with different cultures but at 23, I view you as an adult. You should be financially independent and able to make your own decisions in life.