Dear Anita,

What has helped me the most in the past was accepting myself and (your words) being gentle. As I told you I overcame partially my self harming by accepting that I sometimes need to self harm. I believe self harming=beating myself up=feeling guilty. Just notice it happens to you, and prepare for it, don’t fight it, just prepare yourself you will probably be feeling guilty about some silly thing today, because you will. Don’t hate that feeling, it’s just a thought, it comes and goes. And when it happens just think “okay, there it is, just as I was expecting” and just try to let it go. Try not to justify if it’s any reason to feel it or not, because it doesn’t matter if you should feel guilty or not.  Just notice it and then let it go regardless. I don’t know if that helps, I know it helped me great way and thanks to you mostly.