Dear Cat:

Good to read from you again. Regarding your question about “adult children”- it means the same as adults, to me. I use adult-children in certain contexts, in a sentence. An adult person, once reaching a certain age, does not shed the childhood brain and replaces it with an adulthood brain. It is the same brain throughout life.

I would like to ask you a few questions so to understand better (my other option is to repeat and elaborate on what I already posted to you, and I choose not to do so, this morning):

1. You wrote about having had and still, having opportunities in your life that our mother didn’t have, opportunities that your sister said she wished she had. What are those opportunities, specifically?

2. Within a week or a month (you choose which), how much of the week is spent in misery and how much in peace or happiness? Looking back at your life, how much of it was spent in misery and how much was spent in peace or happiness?

3. The opportunities (#1), did they or do they make you happy or at peace?

4) Do you sometimes or often think it is possible that you were not abused, that you misinterpreted everything, that what you think and feel is wrong?

5. Do you get angry? when/ in what circumstances… and at whom?

anita