Hi Anita,

I did at first, half way through our relationship she felt into depression. Everytime I went to comfort her she would tell me to leave her alone, some times she would growl “I’ve just got to sleep” as I walked in. So I learnt to leave her be, but then she would get angry about that so I tried again with the same results. Alot of the time when she was down I tried to keep the kids quiet or take them out so she could sleep. Eventually I convince her to get help but unfortunately I had learnt when she was down to give her room, sometimes I would bring flowers but I would listen and offer help.

She did voice her needs alot directly which I did my best to sort out, I sometimes did but not directly and sometimes not in the best ways (exploding on her after bottling up).

I wanted to get close to her intimately but I couldn’t tell her.

I couldn’t confront her with the issues I was having as I but myself last and her with her childrens needs first, I thought that was the way to be a good supportive husband.

Regards

Stuart