Hi Anita,

I was ill a long time ago, when I first met my wife I had a checkup that showed I had another tumour to come out, thankfully thats been fine since.

I did bottle up alot of my issues and frustrations, some times I would come in angry and say things in a aggressive manner only to stop and reset sometimes.

I never yelled at her, this is where the passive aggressive behaviour came in as I was blaming her for small things. I just didnt have an outlet and the frustration leaked out.

I couldn’t confront on the issues I had.

We talked alot, but it seemed the problem was always me. I tried to change and work harder but I was unaware about co dependancy and the nice guy issue.

She does have her side to this story so she is not to blame 100%

But she kept telling me that I should know about relationships etc.. tbh I was never taught you learn as you go like parenting.

Regards

Stuart