Dear tonorli:

I think that it will be a good idea to do the following before you invest in going on this trip: write down two scenarios regarding the trip you are considering:

in the first scenario the trip goes well for you, the way that would satisfy you completely.

in the second scenario (can be a few scenarios) the trip does not go well for you, and you are unsatisfied.

Spend time relaxing and imagining the second, see it in your mind’s eye.

If you can imagine the second relaxed, at one point, and come to peace with it, then the trip may be a good idea. But if you can’t come to peace with the second, it is probably not a good idea, says I.

anita