The last sentence of your original post…I would suggest that the easiest way to convey that message is to not respond at all. Part of your dilemma here is you still have feelings for this guy. If you didn’t you wouldn’t have started this thread at all. Keep in mind what Elie Wiesel said “the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference…” I am not saying you hate him or love him but you certainly aren’t indifferent toward him.

With all that said, I sincerely doubt that there is any benefit to you to see or speak to this guy. It may simply stir up feelings that are best left for dead. No one here can tell you what is best for you, you are I am quite sure quite capable of that, but I can tell you to be good to yourself and part of that is sticking with people that are good to you, respect you, care for you and believe in you. His action a couple of years ago don’t fall into any of those categories.

i wish you the best!