Dear Poppyxo:

In my last post to you I focused on your part in the relationship with this woman, the using humor as a vehicle for your anger. I think that learning to assert yourself honestly and directly, without the humor (in this context) will serve you way better. This focus does not mean the other party to the relationship is … the perfect one, not at all, I just didn’t refer to her part.

You suggested that she should meet you half way. Because she has a two year old and doesn’t have a car, I would say it may be reasonable to meet you a third way in, or a quarter: she has to expand some energy into the friendship, text you, for example, after you text her, within a reasonable amount of time and respect commitments already made, except for emergencies.

anita