dreaming715,

I have two brothers are like that. I know they love me. I can try to understand why but for me it is easier just to let that go and accept that this is how they are. They are kind and caring people. They just don’t put any effort to stay in touch or reach out to me.

I occasionally send out an email update on what is going in my life and make an explicit request on what is going on with them.

I feel no need to see my remaining family (parents are dead). I am happy when they have come and visit but that is for rare special occasions like when my son got married.

I understand that not having your parents not interested in you and your life is different. How old are you? Do you see this disinterest from them toward your siblings?

The best advice I can give is to accept what you cannot change and still keep in contact with no expectation any reciprocity. I always use the measure of what to do differently if I know I’ll be dead tomorrow. Or maybe in your case, if knowing your parents will be dead tomorrow.

Mark