Dear Sapnap3:

Your current boss, you wrote: “supports me and helps me grow in my career”- that is your Win in your relationship with him. If you are a good employee, that is his Win. And so, the relationship is Win-Win.

Question is, is your relationship with your boyfriend a Win-Win. I hope you will soon find out, or have a clearer understanding of it in this regard.

Your relationship with your mother, reads to me is a Win-Lose relationship: Win for her and Lose for you. You keep chasing her for love, an impossible endeavor (Lose for you, wasted time and energy, resulting dysfunction in relationships) and it is a Win for her, being attended to, taken care of by you.

anita