Dear Talia:

Not odd to me. The need of a child to be safe, to be approved of, to be part of a loving family is so intense, that when not satisfied in childhood, it persists through life. This need is so strong that the imagining of it satisfied is indeed intoxicating. We will do anything for it to happen, no matter illogical, no matter what.

Is this man the place for you to actually experience what you need- very unlikely. But it feels to you that he is that place. Something about him, about how he talks to you, the words he uses, maybe his voice, his looks, maybe the sexual attraction you mentioned intensifies that childhood need, as in one need intensifies another.

Did you attend psychotherapy so far, in your life?

anita