Hi Rainbow,

I can definitely relate to how you are feeling as I used to beat myself up as I am also hype sensitive. The thing you need to remember is yes you probably said or did something you don’t feel proud of, however, the fact that you noticed your behaviour and didn’t mean any harm by it proves that you are a great person. The only person that is putting pressure on you is yourself.

When I used to do something I thought was stupid, insensitive or rude I would self harm and say a lot of mean things about myself. Truth is, nothing good ever came out of that. We are human. We make mistakes. Now when I say something I feel is silly or insensitive or rude I pause, take a deep breath, and then write down what I did or said that is bothering me. I will then write down what I can say next time so I don’t do the same thing again, avoiding beating myself up. Once I figure out what I could have said or done differently I burn the piece of paper and as I burn the paper I can feel bad, stupid, etc. Once the paper is completely burnt I am not allowed to have any negative feelings or thoughts about what happened because I have come to a conclusion and have made a solution. Good people make mistakes, it’s what makes us grow. Your sensitivity isn’t a downfall it’s a superpower. You are able to empathize like no one else because you are sensitive. There is nothing wrong with being sensitive.

Every time you have a negative thought about yourself such as “I’m stupid” “Why would anyone like me?” etc. Do me a favour and put the opposite statement down with a reason as to why it’s true. For example, if you were to say “Wow, I’m so stupid” write down on a piece of paper “I’m smart because I am able to empathize with someone and truly understand how they feel”. When you write it down, put it in an envelop or a container. At the end of the day before bed, go through your envelop or container and read them out loud. This will help you turn those negative voices into voices that are friendly.

You only get one mind my love, make sure your mind is your friend and not your enemy. You deserve to love yourself and to think good thoughts about yourself.

Hope this has helped,

let me know if I can help with anything else 🙂