Dear Ash:

You are welcome, good to have you here.

You wrote: “The only thing she said negative abut me was that she thought I was a bit of a pushover… She said I was ‘Cool as a cucumber'”- here is a possibility: a man who behaves passively, being a pushover turns her off. It is her automatic reaction to perceived pushover behavior; being turned off, not interested. She is also spiritual, you wrote, and partly believes in spiritual principles. Maybe she sees the positive in being cool-as-a-cucumber, but it turns her off nonetheless.

My overall feel is that she is not interested in you, I am sorry to be typing this. The pushover comment leads me that way more than before.

Her ex boyfriend pushed her a lot, so to speak, cheating on her and so forth. She doesn’t like it in herself, being a pushover. She doesn’t like it in others.

Regarding my earlier suggestion to have an honest conversation with her, I wonder if you can ask her what she feels about pushovers. So to get that type of information, to verify or not the possibility I brought up, above.

anita