Hey Jas,

Thank you for your insights, I have thought of befriending, but then I feel like that encourages more out of work contact and I’m not comfortable with that.

I haven’t heard a perspective likes yours before so that is refreshing. She’s one of the only girls in the department so I can understand where you’re coming from. What sets me off is that she’s also become very, very close (as in they always hang out together and they’ll hang out in his car all the time during department wide get togethers) with another guy in thier department who’s married, which is boundary crossing to me. I understand everyone is different, but it’s still unsettling to me.